do women like to give blow jobs study e1626358380328 1We surveyed 1,114 heterosexual and bisexual women, over 18 years of age, who have given a blow job at least once to answer the question:

Do women like giving blow jobs?

The results were fascinating…and sometimes depressing.

We discovered why women like & sometimes HATE giving blow jobs, how long they like a blow job to last for, what blow job positions are most enjoyable for women, and whether women actually like to swallow at the end of a blow job.

Here is a summary of our key findings:

1. 92.6% of women like to give blow jobs.

2. However, 76.8% of women admitted that they have given a blow job in the past that they did not enjoy.

3. Feeling pressured or forced into giving a blow job was the most cited reason women gave for not enjoying a blow job with 43.4% of respondents admitting this. Other significant factors correlating with negative blow job experiences for women include: too much pubic hair on their partner, their partner taking too long to orgasm and their partner having hygiene issues

4. “I liked pleasuring my partner” was by far the most popular reason women gave when asked why they liked giving their most recent blow job, with 60.2% of women choosing this response.

5. Women adore giving head when their partner is lying down: 49.5% of women said their favorite blow job position is having their partner lay down on their back in bed.

6. Women HATE the 69 position, with 65.3% of women stating that it was their least favorite position when giving a blow job.

7. When asked “how long do you like a blow job to last for?”, 40.2% of women selected the “as long as my partner wants” option. This was by far the most popular choice rather than a specific time.

8. Women like to swallow: 55.5% of women stated that their favorite way to end a blow job is by swallowing their partner’s semen.

The Vast Majority Of Women Like To Give Blow Jobs

Do women only give blow jobs because they feel obliged by their partner? Is it something they do out of ‘duty’ instead of enjoying the act itself? We wanted to settle the perennial debate on whether heterosexual and bisexual women actually enjoy giving blow jobs, so we asked them a very simple question:

Do you like giving blow jobs?

The results were stark:
92.6 of women like to give blow jobs e1626358957118 192.6% of women answered that they like giving blow jobs.

To make sure this result was accurate, we asked a similar question, later in the survey:

Did you like giving your most recent blow job?

91.7% of respondents answered “Yes.”

Key Takeaway: The vast majority of women like giving blow jobs.

But, this overwhelming result comes with a few important caveats that we explain in the next section.

Over Three-Quarters Of Women Have Given A Blow Job That They Did Not Enjoy

A naive person could interpret our initial results (92.6% of women like to give blow jobs) to mean that women enjoy performing oral sex in all situations and circumstances. This kind of misinterpretation of the data could be very dangerous to women.

So we asked all survey participants the following question:

“Have you ever given a blow job that you did not enjoy?”

The results were jaw-dropping

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Most women have given a blow job that they did not enjoy.

Even though 92.4% of women do enjoy giving blow jobs, 76.8% of all women surveyed told us that they had been in at least one situation where they did not enjoy giving head.

This was depressing to hear but thankfully we were able to uncover the reasons leading to a negative blow job experience for women…

Feeling Pressured Or Forced Is The Main Reason That A Woman Has A Negative Blow Job Experience

We wanted to dig further and understand what are the circumstances that lead to women having a negative blow job experience.

Respondents were able to give multiple answers as often there is more than one factor leading to bad blow job experiences. Their feedback was clear:

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Key takeaway: Feeling pressured or forced into giving a blow job is the main reason women gave as to why they did not enjoy giving a blow job, with 43.4% of women selecting this option.

There were also some other interesting reasons leading to negative blow job experiences:

  • 35.4% of women did not enjoy giving a blow job because their partner took too long to orgasm
  • Bad partner hygiene (24.2%) and a partner with too much pubic hair (23.3%) were the 3rd and 4th most given reasons respectively.
  • 20.5% of women selected gagging on their partner’s penis as a reason for not enjoying a blow job. This may have been while deep throating their partner.
  • For women, penis size was not a major factor leading to an unenjoyable experience when sucking their partner’s penis. When reflecting on past negative blow job experiences, 7.8% of women said that their partner’s large penis was a factor in their lack of enjoyment, while 9.4% of women said their lack of size was an issue.

The most interesting result from this section of the survey: Only 5.3% of women said they did not enjoy a blow job due to their partner reaching orgasm too quickly. Remember, 35.4% of women did not enjoy giving a blow job because their partner took too long to orgasm.

If you have a penis, then this finding is clear: it’s better to cum too quickly rather than too slowly during a blow job if you want your partner to enjoy giving it.

Other reasons leading to negative blow job experiences for women were: not being in the mood, feeling tired, no sexual chemistry/attraction, lack of an erection from their partner, suffering from lockjaw, cramping muscles in the mouth and feeling nervous.

As none of these other reasons constituted over 5% of responses, they were grouped together as “Other reasons” in the chart above.

Why Do Women Like Giving Blow Jobs? Pleasing Their Partner Is The Main Reason

We’ve covered the multiple reasons why women have not enjoyed giving blow jobs. But what is the main reason why women do enjoy giving a blow job?

We wanted to get specific for this one, so we focused on respondents’ most recent positive blow job experience.

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60.2% of women selected, “I liked pleasing my partner” as the main reason for enjoying their most recent blow job experience. This was followed by:

  • 21.2% said that giving their partner a blow job turned them on.
  • 10% said the main reason for enjoyment was that they like feeling powerful and in control.
  • 5.5% said that the liked feeling submissive
  • Other reasons (3.1%) included “feeling it grow in my mouth,” “I LOVE the sensation of his member on my lips and tongue,” and “all of the above”

The results from this question are clear: Giving sexual pleasure can be highly satisfying for women.

Women’s Favorite Blow Job Position Is Having Their Partner Lie Down On Their Back

We wanted to delve further into what makes a blow job enjoyable for the women giving it. We started with one of the biggest factors: blow job positions.

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We got a clear answer from our respondents. Nearly half of women (49.5%) choose having their partner lay down on their back while they were between their partner’s legs as their favorite position.

While we didn’t ask for a reason behind their choice, we can speculate that it’s because of

  • It’s comfortable for both partners.
  • The receiving partner is in a passive position, allowing their female partner to have a high degree of control.
  • It makes transitioning to sex easy.

Other popular positions were kneeling while their partner was either standing or sitting. 69 was not particularly popular and positions like having the receiving partner on their hands and knees hardly registered in the survey

Women Hate The 69 Position When Giving A Blow Job

Now that we know the blow job positions that women prefer, we wanted to investigate their least favorite positions when giving head.

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The least favorite blow job position for women is the 69 position. 65.3% of women selected the 69 position as their least favorite position to perform oral sex in.

As you can see in the chart above, no position comes close to being as hated when giving a blow job.

Kneeling while your partner is standing is the second least favorite position, but was selected by only 13% of women.

Our takeaway from this result (and the results on women’s favorite blow job positions) is that the 69 position is not particularly well-liked by women.

The Ideal Blow Job Length Is…As Long As The Receiver Wants, Not A Specific Time

Before we ran our blow job survey, we first designed a small open-ended questionnaire to see if we got any interesting responses or data. As part of that initial small survey, many women did not choose a specific time duration when asked how long they like their blow jobs to last.

Instead, they responded with some form of; “However long my partner wants it to last.” So, we decided to include this as an option in our main blow job survey when asking women what the ideal blow job length is.

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As you can see, 40.2% of women prefer their blow jobs to last as long as their partner wants.

The next most popular blow job duration is 5-10 minutes at 28.1%, followed by under 5 minutes (11.8%), then 11-15 minutes (10.7%).

The most popular answer, “As long as my partner wants it to last,” underscores how important having good sexual communication with your partner is so you can get on the same page and have great sex. Otherwise you may both end up less satisfied.

Women Don’t Like Facials, They Prefer To Swallow

We wanted to finish up the survey focusing on the end of the blow job and discover women’s favorite way to end a fellatio session. It was also a chance to examine whether or not women’s preferences mirror common scenarios seen in pornography?

Short answer:

They don’t.

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Women’s favorite way to finish a blow job is for their partner to ejaculate in their mouth and then to swallow it, with 55.5% of women selecting this option. Having their partner finishing the mouth and swallowing it is over 7 times more popular than the number of women who chose their partner ejaculating in their mouth and then spitting, with only 7.8% of women choosing this option.

The second most popular option, with 19.8% of women choosing it, was having their partner ejaculate on their body.

Only 3.8% of women chose the “My partner cums on my face” option as their favorite way to finish a blow job. So it seems that facials aren’t quite as popular in real life as they appear in porn.

Conclusion

We discovered that the vast majority of women enjoy giving head and enjoyed performing their most recent blow job (over 90% of women in both cases).

The main reason (60.2%) women enjoy giving blow jobs is because they enjoy pleasuring their partner.

However, over three-quarters of women have had at least one negative experience giving a blow job. This was due to a variety of reasons, some of which included: feeling pressured/forced to having a partner who takes too long to cum to having a partner with bad hygiene.

We also discovered that women’s least favorite blow job position is the 69 while having their partner lie down on their back is their favorite.

The favorite way for women to finish a blow job was by swallowing their man’s semen.

Methodology

We began this survey by collecting basic demographic information. Those who had never performed oral sex on a penis were disqualified, as were non-female respondents. After this process, we were left with 964 heterosexual and 150 bisexual women over the age of 18 (1,114 total). These remaining participants were asked a variety of questions to assess their sentiments around performing oral sex on a penis.

Our survey relied on participants’ anonymous recollections and preferences. While they were encouraged to tell the truth and accurately represent what they had experienced, the data is nevertheless self-reported and there is the possibility of some inaccuracy.

Further Study: Do Women Like Receiving Oral Sex – This study involved 1,058 Woman

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Lisa has a Masters of Education (M.Ed.) in Human Sexuality from Widener University's Center for Human Sexuality Studies. She is continuing her studies at the University as a doctoral candidate. Lisa is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapist (ASSECT). She has guest taught human sexuality at several universities including Montclair State, Kean University, and Borough of Manhattan Community College.

Lisa's passion for the field is rooted in her belief that all human beings should understand what healthy sex is, regardless of culture, body or ability.

Her particular areas of expertise focus on: desire in long-term relationship, the intersection of technology and sexuality and its affect on individuals and couples, body image and its influence on sexuality, the impact of the past on single people in America, and modern (online) dating. Her research focuses on marriage from antiquity to present day, modern romance and contemporary dating websites.