how to get over performance anxiety

Getting rid of sexual anxiety is crucial if you want to enjoy your sex life to the fullest extent.

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If you are not feeling fully sexually confident with yourself and around your partner, then this article will help to alleviate some of that anxiety/stress you are feeling.

Overnight Change?

Before reading on, you need to recognise that becoming sexually confident and reducing your sexual anxiety to zero takes time. It’s not an overnight process. Don’t believe any people who say it is.

Like Learning To Drive

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Think of it like learning to drive.

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At first you are worried about your position on the road. Are you driving too fast or too slow? Are you checking your mirror enough? Are your hands on the right place on the steering wheel?

Once you get your licence and are confident behind the wheel, you stop caring about these things. Eventually you reach a point where you are doing everything on autopilot and are only thinking about your destination.

The process of learning to drive is exactly the same process you go through when you are gaining sexual confidence and eliminating sexual anxiety.

You might start off worrying about all sorts of things:

  • Am I doing it right?
  • Am I going too fast/too slow?
  • Should I talk dirty or not talk at all?
  • Should I be a bit more assertive?
  • Should I be less assertive and let him take control?
  • Should I have made foreplay last longer?

Once you gain experience, you won’t have these questions anymore. You’ll simply be enjoying yourself and will know when to focus your attention on your man and when to relax and let him focus his attention on you. If you want a quick start guide on getting confident, especially when it comes to talking dirty to your man to build sexual tension and turn him on then you will learn a lot from this powerful dirty talking tutorial video I created.

Putting It Into Practice

Ok Sean, I think I get it. I need to gain experience to reduce my sexual anxiety. What’s the best way to gain sex experience? Are you saying that I should sleep around a lot?

Sleeping around is not the best way to gain sexual confidence.

A much better way is to find someone that you like, but more importantly someone you are comfortable around. In other words, someone that makes you feel good when you are around them.

As you start getting intimate with him, you should begin experimenting pretty much straight away:

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Still Feeling Anxious?

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Even though you may feel comfortable around your man outside of the bedroom, you may still be feeling nervous or worried about what your man is thinking inside the bedroom, but the truth is that he is just as worried about what you think of him (trust me, I am a guy writing this after all).

The only way to overcome this anxiety is to just forge ahead and try new things even if you are feeling nervous. You’ll notice that if you try a new sex technique, even if it doesn’t go very well, nothing bad actually happens.

In fact, the most likely outcome is that your man will still enjoy it and appreciate the fact that you are interested in trying new things.

After experimenting with your man only a few times, you will notice that you are more sexually confident and less sexually anxious.

The more you experiment, the more confidence you’ll get.

It really is that simple.

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So if you are serious about overcoming your sexual anxiety, please take this advice to heart and check out the rest of the Bad Girls Bible for some killer sex tips on how to please your man.

*Note: If you have experienced a traumatic event in the past that you feel has led to your sexual anxiety, it important to get the help and advice from a trained medical professional.

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Lisa has a Masters of Education (M.Ed.) in Human Sexuality from Widener University's Center for Human Sexuality Studies. She is continuing her studies at the University as a doctoral candidate. Lisa is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapist (ASSECT). She has guest taught human sexuality at several universities including Montclair State, Kean University, and Borough of Manhattan Community College.

Lisa's passion for the field is rooted in her belief that all human beings should understand what healthy sex is, regardless of culture, body or ability.

Her particular areas of expertise focus on: desire in long-term relationship, the intersection of technology and sexuality and its affect on individuals and couples, body image and its influence on sexuality, the impact of the past on single people in America, and modern (online) dating. Her research focuses on marriage from antiquity to present day, modern romance and contemporary dating websites.