Spooning Sex Position Illustration

Spooning is one of the classics along with the MissionaryCowgirl and Doggy Style sex positions. It’s not a sex position for rough or ‘hardcore’ sex. Instead it’s more for those who enjoy slow, intimate sex with their man as your bodies are in full contact with each other.

Spooning is really easy. It’s a lot like the Sofa Spooning position except it’s performed in bed. You and your man both need to lie on your sides, facing in the same direction. Your man will be behind you and then needs to enter you. When in the Spooning position, you need to bring your top leg forward a little bit to make it easier for your man to penetrate you. Once he has entered you, he can wrap his arms around you for closeness.

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What The Girl Does In The Spooning Position

When you are Spooning with your man, you can push back against him with each thrust. You can also play around with your position by bending forwards slightly or lifting your legs towards your stomach to change the angle that your man is entering you at.

You’ll find that you can also lean slightly onto your stomach as well to change the angle of entry. When Spooning with your man, you will be in the perfect position to start massaging your clitoris or using a vibrator to help bring yourself to orgasm or you can finger yourself if you are having anal sex with your man.

What The Guy Does In The Spooning Position

Like I have said before, Spooning is really easy. Your man doesn’t have to be flexible or strong at all to Spoon with you. He simply needs to thrust in and out of you while on his side. He may find it easier to thrust into you if he leans over you slightly.

Your man is also in the perfect position to reach around and start masturbating you, by rubbing around your clit and labia with his fingers. He can also grab the top side of your waist so that he can thrust into you with a little more force. If your man puts his arms around you, then his lower arm may become numb or get pins and needles if he keeps it there for too long. To prevent this from happening, he can put it behind your back or stretch it out above him (which will make him look a little like Superman flying).

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Things To Consider When Performing The Spooning Position

Almost everyone has tried Spooning (or some slight variation of it). Below are some of the thoughts and feedback on it by students of the Bad Girls Bible:

  • Spooning is perfect if you have just woken up or if you are really exhausted and you don’t want to do too much during it.
  • Spooning is perfect if you want to feel really physically close to your partner during sex.
  • You can perform anal sex while Spooning with your man.

Similar Sex Positions

Sofa Spooning

Sofa Spooning Sex Position Illustration 1

You don’t have to change much up for Sofa Spooning–just the location!

Tea Spooning

Teaspooning sex position

If you like your man behind you but want to mix it up, try kneeling, instead.

Bent Spoon

Bent Spoon Sex Position Illustration 2 1

Another variation has the man on his back and the woman on hers on top of him!

Sean’s Thoughts On The Spooning Sex Position

Like just about everyone else, I am a massive fan of Spooning. If feels wonderful, especially when it’s with someone that you are really close to. I highly recommend you try it with your guy if haven’t already.

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Lisa has a Masters of Education (M.Ed.) in Human Sexuality from Widener University's Center for Human Sexuality Studies. She is continuing her studies at the University as a doctoral candidate. Lisa is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapist (ASSECT). She has guest taught human sexuality at several universities including Montclair State, Kean University, and Borough of Manhattan Community College.

Lisa's passion for the field is rooted in her belief that all human beings should understand what healthy sex is, regardless of culture, body or ability.

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